Tuesday, August 30, 2011

Give Yourself Permission to Succeed

When you think of ways to Give Your Way To Success, you need to start with you. So many of us get in our own way when it comes to our success! So today we need to Give Yourself Permission to Succeed!

What do I mean about getting in our own way? Okay let’s start with what NOT to do.

Negative self talk: So many of us are our own worst enemy. Whenever there is a mistake in our lives we beat ourself up about how we handled it. “You are so stupid,” we say. It’s funny. We often talk to ourselves much worse than we allow others to treat us. Remember that!

What to do: I read once in the One Minute Millionaire by Robert Allen and Mark Victor Hansen that we should get rid of the “yeah-buts.” They suggested that you put a rubberband around our wrist. Then each time we hear that inner voice telling us we can’t do something, talking negative or generally saying “yeah but” we snap the rubber band! This is a physical reminder that we need to stop talking ourselves out of success.

When you hear that internal voice saying “I can’t”…stop. Replace that with “I’m getting better at…” or “I am better at…” or something like that. Remember, your subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what is real and what is not. So feed it “good” information. If you tell yourself you are lucky…then you are!

Shooting Too Low: Many of us have really quit dreaming! Remember, if we don’t plan out our own course, then it will be planned for us. I read recently that we are all the author of the story of our lives. It is our right—no our responsibility—to write it well! If we don’t write it, then we will just become a character actor in someone else’s movie!

Okay…so you are ready to write your own story. But make sure you are dreaming big! Give yourself the time and space to close your eyes and imagine what your ideal life would be like. What would you own? Where would you live? Who would be with you? Make sure to be specific! What does your life look like? Smell like? Sound like?
It’s funny. If you read any book from authors that train for success, this step is a part of it. But so few of us actually go to the trouble of DOING it! Got those images in your mind? Great! Now write them down!

Create this dream journal and Give Yourself Permission to Succeed. This is your call to action today! Get out there and write your life as you want it to be!

Monday, August 29, 2011

Give Your Way To Success!

Give Your Way to Success. Think about that for a moment. Let it run around your mind for a bit. Giving your way to success might sound a little counterintuitive based on the “give me,” and “me first” society we live in today. It might even be different from what you are seeing in the “real world” of business right now.

But let go of those images for a moment and think about how great it would be if that was possible. You could give first…and then success would follow. You could give your talents, passions, gifts and skill…only to receive that back ten-fold. Wow.

Well what I am about to tell you is this concept is not only for real…but it is how the world works! The problem with many of us is we have failed to see it. And by missing this critical component, the world seems hell-bent on “taking” what we want away from us.

Famous speaker, author, and trainer Zig Ziglar said you could have anything you want in life if you help enough other people get what they want. As is usually the case with things Zig said, it’s true! Like me, maybe you have heard of this before but was not sure how it applied to you. How, in a real way, can you Give Your Way To Success? That is what I hope to answer here.

I have a daughter that is nearly a teenager. One day in trying to explain to her that her attitude was causing many of her challenges in life, she heard me say this, “What you put out to the world, you get back. So if you are giving your mother and I attitude, that’s what we give you back. If you give us respect…you get that back instead.” This is not a new concept from parents around the world I am sure. But this basic premise is true in our adult lives as well. We just sometimes lose sight of it!

So if you are interested in getting more out of your personal or professional life…give more into it.

Legendary author Stephen Covey (7 Habits of Highly Effective People) once told the story of a man who approached him after a talk. He told Mr. Covey that he had lost that “loving feeling” for his wife. He wanted to know what to do. Covey told him he needed to LOVE her. The man protested saying he no longer felt that way. Covey told him that love is not a feeling…it’s an act. He told the man to GIVE his wife love…and it would return.

So you can see that I am not the first to say that it is possible to Give Your Way To Success. But what I hope to do is to give a step by step outline on how to do just that. I will post new thoughts on this regularly here…along with an occasional call to action.

Today’s call to action…give kindness. Reach out to a person that has done something for you and thank them. Send a card with a heartfelt message and let them know how much you appreciate them and their at. You will be GIVING kindness. Let’s see how much you receive in return!